Hey there, friends!
Today I would like to share with you a tarot spread that I developed in early February to help me make sense of my recent breakup. I was finding it difficult to move on from my partner, as many people do after breaking up with someone they care for. As an Aquarius, I have an innate and insatiable desire to understand things. I kept asking myself why, why, why about everything that happened and why it didn’t work out. I couldn’t let the issue drop until I fully wrapped my mind around the understanding and closure of the situation. This tarot spread was a result of me asking a series of questions I wanted the answers to, and in this way, I developed a spread.
Note: Of course I take the tarot messages as advice, but also with a grain of salt. Keep that in mind when dealing with outside parties, and always remember to be respectful of a partner’s decision if they choose to end things. If the cards send a message of reconciliation, please do not take this as validation to insert yourself back into their lives and become an emotional burden. I did this spread for myself, so that I could heal and work through things in my own mind, completely separate from my partner. Do this spread to improve yourself and your own mental stability and healing.
Also, don’t mind the bent page. I crinkled it while erasing the pencil and it’s been bugging the heck out of me!
So let’s jump into the spread.
1-3: Why it didn’t work out.
This is the root of the problem/situation. This represents things that may have been out of balance in the relationship or the underlying disconnect between you.
4-6: Why I can’t move on.
These cards represent anything that you are holding onto, emotional ties between you and your partner, hopes and fears, wishes, and internal conflict that is burdening your mind post split.
7-9: Next steps in my healing process.
These cards represent what you should be focusing on, what you should be releasing, and your next steps moving forward with your own life when you are feeling lost, attached, or abandoned/lonely.
10: Something I need to know about my ex partner.
This card represents some hidden aspect of your former partner that was never brought to light. This can also represent how they are currently feeling, or the root of a deep conflict or struggle in their own life, although you can take this card to mean just about anything relating to your ex. Whatever it is you need to know about them.
11: How I viewed the relationship.
How you felt about the relationship, your feelings towards your partner, and the overall energy that you brought to the relationship.
12: How they viewed the relationship.
How your partner felt about the relationship, their feelings towards you, and the overall energy that they brought to the relationship.
13: How they viewed me.
How your partner viewed you during the relationship. This could represent strengths or weaknesses they recognized in you, or the general energy they felt from you.
14: How they viewed themselves.
How your partner viewed themselves during the relationship. This could represent strengths or insecurities about themselves, whether they felt justified in their decisions, or the general energy they felt they brought to the relationship. This could also represent deeper personal struggles or images of self-worth.
15-17: Future relations or outcome between us.
These cards represent the future of your interaction with this person. Did things end well? Is there any chance of talking to them again? Are they satisfied with their decision? How are they feeling now? How are you feeling now? These cards can also indicate your ex partner’s next moves in the near future. Or yours.
And there you have it. If you use this spread please let me know how it resonated with you. I’d love to hear from you in the comments or posts!