Juggling a blog, prepping for graduate school, book writing, my job, and a relationship is a lot of work. How does one make time for everything? It’s enough to make even the most type-A personalities shiver with fright!
My personal tarot card for the year of 2019 was Temperance, a card of balance and moderation. It’s something I rarely practice. I’m usually all in or all out. As a multipotentialite, leading a balanced life is unheard of! I usually get obsessed with something and then work exclusively on the thing until I am sick of looking at it before moving onto the next. I burn through hobbies like they’re going out of style. But this year, with so much going on, balance isn’t just an option, it’s a necessity.
Today I am going to share with you my secrets to leading a balanced life.
I can’t really recommend this enough. If you want to stay on top of your projects and life in general, you’re going to need to be organized about it. If you are one of the lucky ones who can keep it all straight in your own head, that’s great! But for the rest of us, writing it down is essential to making sure you’re hitting all your timelines. You can put dates into your calendar, create to-do lists, and even track your favorite memories so you can look back on them at a later date. For more information about bullet journaling, check out Bullet Journaling For Beginners & Starting A New Bullet Journal For 2019.
With a chaotic life, peaceful alone time is necessary to keeping yourself sane. Yes, you might need to schedule this time in. That’s ok. Do it. It’s not as lame as scheduling sexy time. Trust me. Just ten minutes every night will be enough to allow your mind to declutter itself and unwind after or before a stressful day begins. Light a candle. If you have kids around, turn on an electric candle so you don’t have to worry about them barreling into it and burning down your house. Fill your house with aromatherapy essential oils by using a diffusor or incense. Sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes, and just be. For ten minutes out of your day, allow yourself the time to just be.
Saying no is just as important as saying yes. You want to make sure you are living your life to your fullest, but sometimes you need to make sure you’re taking care of yourself first. It’s ok to set time aside for yourself. Ariana Grande’s new song, NASA, discusses this issue perfectly. It’s not that you don’t want to be around certain people or work on a certain project, but sometimes you need to make sure you aren’t spreading yourself too thin.
Set aside time for relaxing/fun
All work and no play makes anyone a total basket case. It’s important to work hard, that is true, but it is just as important to unwind. Otherwise you may end up feeling resentful, bitter, or overwhelmed. Even if you are doing great things for your life, take the time to stop for a while. Cook dinner with your S. O., watch a movie with your kiddos, take your camera and go on a nature adventure. No matter what your version of fun is, make sure you make time for yourself.
Stop working when you are at a good place
It can be so tempting to keep working because you are on a roll, but as we all know, rolls always come to an end. It’s better to stop while you’re ahead, with lots of great ideas in your head. It will leave you something else to look forward to so you can get back into your work easily. Like with writing; if you stop writing because of writers block, that block is still going to be there when you go back to it. And it will most likely discourage you from starting again because you know it’s going to take a lot of creative energy to knock down that writer’s block.
Plan your next steps
This goes along with the previous tip. If you stop when you are in a good place, you can plan out your next steps for an enthusiastic start to your next working session. After you’ve bullet journaled your next steps in your to-do list, you can close that section of the day and focus on one of the other things you need to, like family time or self care. It’s all about closure. This step gives you the proper closure so that you can rest assured that you don’t need to worry about that part of your life until this time tomorrow.
Go to sleep earlier
I absolutely hate waking up feeling groggy, like all I want to do is hit the snooze button. That is no way to live your life. How do you combat this feeling? Go to bed earlier. Pushing it back by a half hour first will get you accustomed to a small dose of earlier sleep, and then you can increase that time to suit your needs. You will wake up feeling fresh, bright eyed, and ready to tackle your day. A healthy night’s sleep is so important to living a happy, balanced life. It gives you the energy you need in order to keep up with all of life’s twists and turns.
Wake up earlier
This goes along with going to sleep earlier, because if you go to sleep earlier, you will naturally want to wake up earlier! Gasp! It’s science. Waking up earlier will give you more time before work to tackle some of the things you need to do, whether that be chores around the house, your meditation time, bullet journal time, or having a really good morning sex session with your S. O. However you plan on using that time, waking up earlier each morning will give you a sense that you aren’t just living to work. It gives you time to do a little living around your job.
Take your medications
Nothing screws with your life routine than a bout of bipolar disorder or depression. Skipped your meds over the weekend because you were just having too much fun and forgot? Guess what. Come Tuesday you are going to be feeling that chemical mood swing so hard you probably aren’t going to be able to concentrate on anything except the fact that you feel like you’ve gained five pounds and look like a potato. We all make mistakes sometimes, so if this happens, make sure to take some extra time to focus on self care. Journal out your feelings until you are back on track with your medications, and communicate with your partner why you might be out of sorts. Remember, they aren’t mind readers, so any change in personality might be upsetting to them. Communication will solve a lot of problems when it comes to mental health issues, and they will be able to help pick up the slack like housework or help with the children.
Be present in the moment
Speaking of S. O.’s, your partner is really not going to appreciate you working on your blog while they are trying to snuggle with you at night. When you are with your partner or your children, give them your undivided attention. The time for work is the time to work. Not social time, not self care time, not sexy time. Leave those things in the timeslot they belong. If your mind is distracted by the thing you happen to be obsessed with (like your blog or your creative project) you won’t be able to fully appreciate the time set aside for other things. If you are eating a delicious dinner with your partner, savor it and communicate with them. Don’t sit there on your cellphone reading tips on how to raise your SEO.
Thanks for reading. Do you have any suggestions on how you lead a balanced life? Share your thoughts!