5 Ways To Get More Active Readers

Everyone wants the interaction, but no one wants to make the first move and reach out. We enter The Inactive Ego Trap. Inactive because no one ends up doing anything about it. Egotistical because everyone expects the other person to be the first to reach out. And trap because with your mind in this cycle, it can be difficult to get out of.

You spend minutes, days, hours, years watching your activity feed in the hopes that something will happen that will suddenly make your blog popular. And yes you may get a like here, a like there, but it’s nowhere near as many as you’d like. And yet you are unsure how to increase your readership’s interaction with your blog.

Introducing, The Proactive Blogger.

With the following tips, you will get more comments, more interaction, more views!

  1. Leave comments
  2. Answer comments on your posts
  3. Ask for feedback at the end of posts
  4. Participate in memes
  5. Join a blogging community

But wait, there’s more! Let’s expand on these points a bit.

Leave Comments On Other Blogs

If you really want to see your blog grow, let go of your ego. Let go of the anxiety of socially interacting with others on the internet. Remove emotion from the equation and do things the way a sociopath would do things. Would a sociopath leave a comment on someone’s post with the express interest in seeing that person return the favor on their own blog? Absolutely.

This is all tongue in cheek. Don’t worry. I don’t actually mean act like a sociopath. My goodness, there’s enough of those heartless souls out there in the world already. That was just the jokester Kat having some fun. The serious Kat is here to tell you that the power to increase activity on your blog lies within you. Yes, within you! Be bold. Be courageous. Be the first one to reach out. You never know! The person you want to do a collab post with might want to do one with you too, but is just too scared to ask first! The person whose blog you just left a comment on might see it and it might make their whole day because it’s the first comment they’ve recieved in weeks!

Reaching out first means being a leader. If you can do that, then they will come. And they will interact. Act with confidence and people seldom question it. So go ahead and take the first action. Leave a comment.

Answer Comments On Your Posts

Make sure to answer the comments that people leave for you too. They don’t just say nice things to get a quick “like” on their comment. They took the time out of their day to read your post and leave a comment. Take the time to write back. This is how you can start converstations and really get to know your reader base. You can find out what they liked and didn’t like, and they often have wonderful critiques as well.

Ask For Feedback At The End Of Posts

But how does one get comments in the first place? The structure of a good blog post always has a call to action at the end. Ask your readers questions about the post and the content involved. Give them an opportunity to talk about themselves (everyone loves talking about themselves a little). Present them with a chance to link a blog post of their own. This is a great way to give their posts more views too while also getting to know them a little better.

Participate In Memes

You can also try your hand at internet memes and surveys. These are the fun little writing prompts or games that you can add to your blog for some easy reading. Many online memes give you a chance to tag others, much like the Sunshine Blogger Award. This spreads an interactive vibe that you can use to build a bridge between bloggers that you respect or want to get to know better. Remember, there is a person behind every blog.

Join A Blogging Community

Lastly, joining a blogging community such as a facebook group or pinterest board is a great way to interact with bloggers and get more interaction on your blog. For example, I am a member of Blogging For New Bloggers, where they host promotion fridays in which you can share a post or page you would like more interaction with. But these groups really work the best for you when you are an engaged participant. You can lurk around these groups and learn a lot, but when you begin to interact with your fellow blogger hobbiests, you would be surprised at how many people are just like you, looking for a deeper connection than just “follow my blog so I can get more views”!

Thank you for reading! Do you have any other suggestions that I may have missed? We’d love to hear from you. (See, call to action! Do the thing!!)

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On Moving On…


I don’t remember much of last winter. I was too buried in grief colder than any squall. The sharp bite of bitter wind was a welcome distraction from the sickness of my heart.

I put all the things he gave me in the back of my closet, not brave enough to throw them in the trash but not bold enough to keep them around either. Like all bad memories, I hoped they would just fade away.

I found things enough to keep me busy during the days, but the nights were filled with inescapable loops of all the things I could have done better. Of all the things I might have done wrong.

I don’t remember the first day after January 7th that I didn’t see his face every time I closed my eyes, but it must have come. Yes, it must have. Because the sick sinking feeling in my chest now feels like a faded picture.

I grasped for anything that might save me. Desperately, I entered entropy and let the world devour me with new experiences. And yet only within myself did I finally find healing.

For a late blooming flower, I found that each bruise he gave me wilted my tender petals. But those scars will grow a stronger bud come spring. Every beautiful rose wonts to be plucked. And every summer they bloom again.

Moving on is all about compartmentalizing. The pain never goes away. You just box it up and bury it somewhere in your mind and try to think of better things to come.

Wishing stops working after a while, when you realize that people don’t work like shooting stars. They don’t fall on command, and they have pasts that they can never outrun.

I walked into something karmic, and fuck that’s unfortunate, because you were the start of my journey, and I was only a distraction from yours.

Sometimes I remember the way he rolled his eyes while I drove us home one December night, and in that moment I knew there was no saving this. And it took all my strength of will not to burst into tears as we ate our blue cheese burgers while we tried to think of something, anything to talk about.

Here’s some prose from last winter, about my broken heart and learning to move on after that.

Bad things happen in life, but we shouldn’t view those as negatives. We learn much more from pain than we do from success. And sometimes a broken heart is just what we need in order to transform our lives into everything we’ve ever dreamed of. So thank those who have taught you the tough lessons, and pray that they someday find the healing they need as well. Forgive them, and find peace.

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In Case You Missed It | 2018 Blog Post Recap


As this year comes to a close, it is a perfect opportunity to look back at the progess we’ve all made and the things we have created. I have gone back through my blog and reread all of my posts. I am still in disbelief that I have been able to stick with it for so long! I’ve amassed over 62k words just in ten short months of blogging here at Antiquarius. Below is what I feel are some of my best posts. Some of the newer followers here may have missed some of these older posts.

Please give them a visit if they spark your interest!

The Benefits Of Daily Meditation



I Am



Loneliness In Adulthood


Things Become Okay



Productivity Tips



Bullet Journaling For Beginners



Forgive Yourself



How To Make A Motivation Board



If you have any posts you’d like to share from your own blog during the year of 2018, link them down below!

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Take care, and don’t forget to take your medications!

Blog Goals | 2019

I have been consistently blogging here at Antiquarius for nine months, and in that time I have learned so much about blogging and producing good content. There are tips and tricks that really do help bloggers get that polished looking blog, and slowly I am learning how to do it right.

One of the best resources I can recommend for bloggers is Canva. It’s an app that you can download on your phone to create high quality graphics like the one above. The templates are endless and specifically organized by social media sites and purposes. Best of all is that Canva is free to download, and as long as you use your own original pictures, is free to use as well!

I am excited to see where my blog will go in the coming year. I know a lot of bloggers keep track of blog goals, and so I have decided to do the same, in hopes that it will motivate me even more! And maybe these can inspire you to make your own blog goals if you don’t already have a nice little list.

By this time next year, I would like to:

  1. Reach 500 Followers
  2. Have roughly 100 active readers
  3. Post 2 times a week
  4. Buy a self-hosted domain
  5. Do a collab post!
  6. Get 1 sponsor

After doing some research, it seems that WordPress AdSense doesn’t generate much of a profit, so I’m really going to try for a sponsorship through a smaller company, as one of my long-term goals for my blog is to use it as a second income. I also want to use my blog as a platform to promote my self published books that I will be releasing once I have enough followers and those interested in my writing style.

I will say this too: Blogging isn’t as easy as I thought it would be, but it’s no less rewarding. Writing the posts, taking pictures, and interacting with other bloggers is a time consuming hobby, but I love every second of it. I still have a ton to learn about blogging, but I am so glad I started on this journey eight months ago.

Are you a new blogger? Let’s connect! Do you have any suggestions for a new blogger just starting out? Leave your thoughts down below.

Take care and don’t forget to take your medications!


Wow! I feel like it was only last month that I made my 100 Followers post! And now here we are at the end of November and I have officially hit the 200 Follower mark! Thank you guys so much for following. I hope that you like the content I put out, and if there’s anything you’d like to see more of from the mind of a twenty-something, please comment and let me know. I am always excited to produce new material.

I feel that the increase in activity is due to my increased involvement with the community. Writing blog posts is fun and all, but I have really been trying to reach out and interact with more bloggers, comment on their posts, and give them likes. If you are a new follower, say hello! Leave a little fact about yourself down in the comments, or a link to your favorite blog post you’ve written so that I can go and show you some love.

Take care, take those medications, and stay safe during this busy time of year!

Top 5 Tuesday | Tropes I’m Over

As a reader, writer, or general consumer of fiction, there are just certain things that rub you the wrong way. Whether it’s a cliché that’s been done to death, or a trending fad that seems to be found everywhere, some tropes need to be buried. Let them rest in peace. Resurrect some new ideas and incorporate something fresh into your work. Below is a list of the things that I’m totally over.


Especially female assassins. This seems to be hugely popular at the moment in fantasy novels especially. Like, yes, I understand that being an assassin is a career choice, but it’s pretty dark, don’t you think? And while one or two stories are awesome, I feel like assassin stories are everywhere recently. Focusing on a character that has been trained to kill, while really cool, is also a little depressing, and I’m just sort of over it. Maybe this just means that my reading tastes are changing as I get older and read more.

Whitewashed horror movies

I am so over the white people horror movies. Specifically, the trope of a white middle class family moving into a new house that ends up being haunted. There are literally so many other story lines that can end in being stuck in a haunted house. I’d really like to see some variety here. The horror movies are so white washed, and have been since their birth. The most refreshing thing was seeing that Sabrina’s best friend in the new series is a woman of color. Can we get more of that please? (Also, can I just say that the new Sabrina series hits all the points that need to be hit in the best way possible. I love it so much.)

The one inept guard

This is a perfectly boring and lazy trope to write. Your heroes need to do something sneaky and the only way to get this thing done is to outsmart the one inept guard who either has no idea about the heroes antics, or is unable to shoot straight or keep up with our heroes. Yes, it can be funny if used right, but it’s lazy writing! It’s a plot-saver when you can’t think of any other way for your heroes to get away with something. I’d rather read or watch something where the guard knows the heroes are up to something, but because he’s human and not getting paid enough, allows them to continue on without stopping them, or asks for a bribe to keep his mouth shut, or actually succeeds in thwarting their super sneaky plan and forcing them to think of another way to get the thing done. Literally anything would be better than assuming the guard doesn’t know how to do his job, or worse, sleeps the whole time. Have you, in real life, seen a single guard fall asleep on the job? I haven’t. The guards are usually super nice, super human, and definitely not getting paid enough to chase after some trouble-making heroes. In fact, the closest to perfect representation of “inept guards” was in one of the new Star Wars movies, when Kylo Ren is having a temper tantrum and the guards slowly back away and decide to take another route. That was pure writing genius.

Total hardass female characters

She can outdrink the boys, she can kick anyone’s ass, everyone seems to want her, and she looks damn good covered in car oil. The hardass female characters trope is something I’m totally over. Playing the “anything you can do, I can do better” game with the male characters is getting old. Women are strong and powerful, yes, but in other ways. I don’t want to see a female character written to be a man in all but the floppy appendage. I want to see a female character kick ass because she is female.

Dystopian futures

What a depressing image to have in your heads after reading a anything dystopian. It reminds me of the trend in the 80’s, which followed basically the exact same paradigm. The world gets destroyed in some way, the governments break down or are run by corrupt men, and it’s every man for himself. I think at this point in time we need a more positive message. I’m a little tired of always feeling sad after watching or reading dystopian future fictions. And I know that art imitates life and vice versa, so why don’t we try to shift that mindset? Why don’t we focus on creating uplifting art in the hopes that life will imitate and improve?

What are some of your least favorite tropes? Link me to your posts down below!

Take care, and don’t forget to take your medications!