Sunday Pep Talk | Trust Yourself

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Hello, friends! I have a secret to tell you. I don’t actually have any new years resolutions yet. I know. LAME. But there are things I want to do more of, and less of. I just haven’t gotten around to setting them as goals that I will actively work towards achieving. I mean, I made blog goals, and intentions, but those aren’t quite as real as resolutions, which I take to be things you actively do in your life to change things. Just to recap, in 2018 I:

Made my bed every morning
Got my mental health under control
Started therapy
Began a new job

This year, the things I’d like to do are:

Take care of more plants
Monetize my blog
Take my photography business to the next level
Move into my own apartment
Buy a new car
Publish that book I’m sitting on

These are big things. HUGE things. Cars are expensive. Apartments are also expensive. But if I can get my other goals completed, that shouldn’t really be an issue. 2019 will be a year about learning I can do the things, and then just doing the damn things. I always make excuses for why I can’t be a professional blogger and photographer. Interestingly enough, grad school did not make it onto that list. It’s something I’ve been considering ever since I graduated from undergrad, but for some reason I just can’t commit to that. Maybe it’s because I feel like the surreptitious college scam is finally coming to light, the idea that you need college to make money, when really all they do is enslave you to student loans. Graduate school is a ton of money! Sure, I could do it, but would I be any better off than I am now? I may have a better job, but I’d be paying more on my student loans. It’s a giant catch 22.

So instead, I’ve decided that 2019 will be focused on what I can do for myself with my own God-given talents. Not everyone can write, or take pictures, or both. I know I can do these things, but 2019 will be about accepting that I can do them for money. It’s easy! And graduate school will always be there, right? I just have to trust that I am on the right path and that I will lead myself exactly where I need to go.

And you should too! Trust that you know what’s best for yourself. If that means totally changing careers or ending a relationship with someone who loves you but who you’ve fallen out of love with, do the damn thing. This is your life. You have the power to make it anything you want it to be. Remember that your feelings are just as valid as anyone else’s. So listen to yourself. Trust yourself!

Sunday Pep Talk | New Year, New You


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Hello, friends. I hope you’ve all had a lovely holiday. 

They always say the New Years is a time of reinventing yourself, and I full heartedly agree with that! It has become the butt of every basic girl joke. Hashtag new year, new me! As they post an Instagram photo that has clearly been filtered and which will be followed by a bunch of snapchats of them puking in the toilet because they’ve embraced the new year a little too hard and couldn’t keep it all down. We’ve all been there, right?

No no, just kidding. All of the “New Years, New Me’s” are perfectly fine young ladies. And more power to them! Everyone deserves a chance to start over, and what better time to do that than at the beginning of a new year? Everyone has the power to change who they are; to be better, do better, reach out to those they hurt and start working on better relationships and friendships.

For me, in 2018 I swore I would get my mental health under control, and I followed through with that goal. I didn’t set too many for 2018. Just one. Get it together. Now, as 2019 rolls around, I am once again presented with an opportunity to make it a great year. What goals do I have in mind for 2019? Now that I have my mind straight, I would like to get my finances straight too. The wheels for this goal started rolling in 2018, but 2019 I will really try and focus on achieving the career goals I want. That means applying to graduate school. That means stepping into a leadership position and learning to manage groups of people. The old me would have told myself that these things were unachievable. The new me knows that if I work hard and stay focused on what’s important, I will be able to accomplish all of these goals.

What goals have you set for 2019? Whatever they are, I hope that you follow through with them and manifest the life that you want. You do have the power within you!