Sunday Pep Talk | Trust Yourself

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Hello, friends! I have a secret to tell you. I don’t actually have any new years resolutions yet. I know. LAME. But there are things I want to do more of, and less of. I just haven’t gotten around to setting them as goals that I will actively work towards achieving. I mean, I made blog goals, and intentions, but those aren’t quite as real as resolutions, which I take to be things you actively do in your life to change things. Just to recap, in 2018 I:

Made my bed every morning
Got my mental health under control
Started therapy
Began a new job

This year, the things I’d like to do are:

Take care of more plants
Monetize my blog
Take my photography business to the next level
Move into my own apartment
Buy a new car
Publish that book I’m sitting on

These are big things. HUGE things. Cars are expensive. Apartments are also expensive. But if I can get my other goals completed, that shouldn’t really be an issue. 2019 will be a year about learning I can do the things, and then just doing the damn things. I always make excuses for why I can’t be a professional blogger and photographer. Interestingly enough, grad school did not make it onto that list. It’s something I’ve been considering ever since I graduated from undergrad, but for some reason I just can’t commit to that. Maybe it’s because I feel like the surreptitious college scam is finally coming to light, the idea that you need college to make money, when really all they do is enslave you to student loans. Graduate school is a ton of money! Sure, I could do it, but would I be any better off than I am now? I may have a better job, but I’d be paying more on my student loans. It’s a giant catch 22.

So instead, I’ve decided that 2019 will be focused on what I can do for myself with my own God-given talents. Not everyone can write, or take pictures, or both. I know I can do these things, but 2019 will be about accepting that I can do them for money. It’s easy! And graduate school will always be there, right? I just have to trust that I am on the right path and that I will lead myself exactly where I need to go.

And you should too! Trust that you know what’s best for yourself. If that means totally changing careers or ending a relationship with someone who loves you but who you’ve fallen out of love with, do the damn thing. This is your life. You have the power to make it anything you want it to be. Remember that your feelings are just as valid as anyone else’s. So listen to yourself. Trust yourself!

5 Ways To Reach Higher Vibrations

Raising your vibrations seems to be a hot topic right now on the internet. No, this is not in reference to your favorite sex toys. High vibrations refer to the energy of highly successful and happy people. Everyone wants to be successful and happy, right? No wonder this is so trendy.

Everyone has their own opinion about how to raise your vibrations, from eating vegan to gong emersion meditation. There’s so much to filter through, so how do you know what works and what doesn’t?

What Are Vibrations?

Let’s start with what the heck vibrations are. A lot of people out there probably think the whole energy thing is a bunch of hocus pocus, but did you know that every human being has their own energy field? You radiate energy whether you are aware of it or not. People with higher vibrations have energy that vibrates faster, while people with lower vibrations have energy that vibrates slower.

What does this do to a person?

Have you ever seen someone who is constantly sad, negative, angry, or complaining? Their energy is low, they often get sick, they don’t seem to glow. This is because their vibrations are low. If you could imagine a little energy field around their person, it would be dark and unanimated, languid, lethargic.

And have you ever been around a person who is bubbly, talkative, assertive, successful, and happy? Their energy is high. They spend their free time exercising, eating healthy foods, and taking care of their appearances. This is because their vibrations are high. If you could imagine a little energy field around their person, it would be bright, fast, and warm.

If you are a person with low, slow vibrations, fear not. There are things you can change about your life that can increase your vibrational energy and make you a healthier, happier person. Below is a list of things I have found to raise my own vibration.


Stop worrying

Did you know that your thoughts have a huge impact, if not the BIGGEST impact on your vibrational energy? When your internal monologue is an epitaph of depressive speech, negative statements, and self-abuse, your energy levels decrease. Each negative thought you have lowers your vibrations, and as a result, you create a reality that is riddled with negativity. There is an old saying that says “your thoughts shape your reality”, and there has never been a truer statement.

Practice Affirmations

Replace those negative thoughts with positive ones. When you feel yourself slipping into that dark, sad place, practice positive affirmations. Below is a list of positive affirmations to practice.


Try these affirmations:

I am loved
I am safe
I am learning
I will do better next time
It wasn’t a failure if I learned something
My feelings are valid
I am strong
I am worthy
I am enough


Meditate

This is one of those key points that keeps popping up everywhere there is a mention of higher vibrations. Everyone praises meditation as a cure for low energy levels and vibrations. Why? Because it works! You know what they say; if it ain’t baroque….Nevermind. Meditation was one of the key practices that led to my path to higher vibrations. Your mind can become so bogged down by stress, regret, and worry for the future. Practicing mindful meditation helps clear those bad thoughts out of your mind and helps to create space for those positive affirmations mentioned above. Focusing on your breathing and presence here on this earth has a huge impact on your vibrations. For more information about meditation, check out my post on the benefits of meditation.

Surround yourself with positive people:

“Your vibe attracts your tribe.”

Think about it. If you spend your time hanging out with low energy individuals, it is much harder to raise your vibrations. This doesn’t mean people who are chill, calm, and level headed. By low energy, I am referring to people with low vibrations. Often people who are depressed have the lowest possible vibrations. This doesn’t mean you should abandon your loved ones who suffer from low vibrations, either. Just be aware that there is an energy difference, and if you feel yourself being pulled into their negative headspace, remember to recharge and nurture your own energy until you feel ok again. Alternatively, if you spend time around successful, happy people, the good vibrations can feel contagious. It is often inspiring, and is motivation to reach their same level. Those negative friends that you don’t enjoy hanging out with? Stop hanging out with them. That boyfriend that makes you feel used and underappreciated, dump him. Move towards people who will lift you up, not tear you down.

Exercise

What do you think the easiest way to start your energy moving is? That’s right, you are just a mass of molecules made up into some sort of carbon life form. By exercising, you encourage yourself, down to the tiniest atoms, to be more active, and therefore, higher in vibrational frequency. If you dance, your atoms dance, your energy dances. If you sit in one spot, those atoms sit too, becoming slow and low. So get out of bed and start moving! Your body, mind, and soul will thank you.


It should be said, however, that having high vibrations doesn’t mean you won’t have bad days. Of course you will still feel mad and sad sometimes, but raising your vibrations is the difference between wallowing and growing. Allow those negative feelings to come, but then release them. If you have lower vibrations, it’s harder to let go of all those negative vibes, like a giant spider web that ensnares them.


I hope you enjoyed this post. Do you have any practices that you feel help raise your vibrations? We’d love to hear from you!

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Take care, and don’t forget to take your medications!

Kat

 


Sunday Pep Talk | New Year, New You


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Hello, friends. I hope you’ve all had a lovely holiday. 

They always say the New Years is a time of reinventing yourself, and I full heartedly agree with that! It has become the butt of every basic girl joke. Hashtag new year, new me! As they post an Instagram photo that has clearly been filtered and which will be followed by a bunch of snapchats of them puking in the toilet because they’ve embraced the new year a little too hard and couldn’t keep it all down. We’ve all been there, right?

No no, just kidding. All of the “New Years, New Me’s” are perfectly fine young ladies. And more power to them! Everyone deserves a chance to start over, and what better time to do that than at the beginning of a new year? Everyone has the power to change who they are; to be better, do better, reach out to those they hurt and start working on better relationships and friendships.

For me, in 2018 I swore I would get my mental health under control, and I followed through with that goal. I didn’t set too many for 2018. Just one. Get it together. Now, as 2019 rolls around, I am once again presented with an opportunity to make it a great year. What goals do I have in mind for 2019? Now that I have my mind straight, I would like to get my finances straight too. The wheels for this goal started rolling in 2018, but 2019 I will really try and focus on achieving the career goals I want. That means applying to graduate school. That means stepping into a leadership position and learning to manage groups of people. The old me would have told myself that these things were unachievable. The new me knows that if I work hard and stay focused on what’s important, I will be able to accomplish all of these goals.

What goals have you set for 2019? Whatever they are, I hope that you follow through with them and manifest the life that you want. You do have the power within you!

 

Yule Ritual

Hey there, friends!

I’d like to share with you a little Yule ritual my sister and I performed a few nights ago. We wanted to have a fire, but it was raining as it so often is in Pittsburgh. So instead we lit a candle to serve as our bonfire.

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The purpose of the ritual was to set our intentions for the new year ahead. We made a list of positive affirmations, wishes, and desires for 2019.


On my list I had things like:

Fearlessly embrace love

Spread kindness

Practice yoga

Grow my blog

Use my voice and set boundaries

Buy a new car


After creating the list, we meditated and visualized what we wanted to manifest. This was a very emotionally charged experience, in a good way. I was in a good mood to begin with, and focusing on the person I wanted to become made me that much happier.

When we were finished visualizing and meditating on our lists, we burned them in the candle flame and gathered the ashes in a pot. Mine burned quickly so my sister said I must have had very good energy and that my intentions would surely come true in the new year.

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We took the ashes outside and sprinkled them into the wind. I watched as my wishes and affirmations blew away into the universe with a beautiful moon looking on.

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I wish you all a very prosperous and productive 2019. May all your dreams come true and may your loved ones be happy and healthy.

Take care, and don’t forget to take your medications!

-Kat

Things I Learned In 2018

This has by far been the most transformative year of my life. I feel like the wall between who I was and who I want to be was finally smashed into dust. It was painful, yes, but I have come so far. There is no doubt that I am a different person. One who is handling her mental health, one who is putting work into her passions and what is important to her, and one who is working to build a life after her paralyzing depression. I’ve learned some valuable lessons this year in the process. Below is a list of some life advice I’ve acquired through gaining experience and leveling up. 2018 has been a tough level. It has been an underwater level. But 2019 is going to rock. So what did I learn?

  1. You are responsible for your own happiness. You won’t find it in someone else until you’ve found it within yourself first.
  2. Communicating really does solve a lot of things. No one likes communicating the icky things that can hurt feelings, but avoiding them will make them much worse.
  3. If someone wants to leave your life, let them go.
  4. Pain only lasts as long as you hold onto it.
  5. Therapy helps. A lot. And a surprising amount of people do it.
  6. Keep working on your passions. At the end of the day, those are the things that matter most.
  7. It is very possible to fake it until you become it.
  8. Wishing won’t do anything if you don’t take the action to make it real.
  9. Have fun! None of the drama will matter in six months.
  10. You are completely capable of creating the life you want to live and having everything you want. You just gotta do it.

Did you learn anything new this year? About life? About yourself? Share your thoughts!

As always, take care, and don’t forget to take your medications.

Why I don’t like Emilia Fart

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Emilia Fart is an “iconic” YouTube personality that puts out the most bizarre and unorthodox content you could imagine. She has changed her appearance to be the most outlandish and annoying eyesore on the face of the planet. She says whatever comes to her mind, no matter how embarrassing or shameful it is.

And this is why I don’t like Emilia Fart.

I love her. Yes. LOVE HER.

I wanted to hate her. The first video of hers that I watched had me utterly confused and I left that video questioning how I view society, culture, and my own personal conformity. I think a lot of her content could be misunderstood, but that is just a first impression. The deeper you go into her videos, the more you begin to understand why she does what she does. The more you begin to see the person that Emilia is, as well as the character she becomes.

Emilia Fart is a smart woman. She utilized her creativity, imagination, and braveness to create a YouTube channel that not only offers entertainment but really makes you think twice about the things you say and how you view others around you.

Is she all mentally there? That’s debatable. In fact, she herself has often questioned her own sanity in certain videos. But one thing that is true is that she is unapologetically herself. She speaks her mind and shows a vulnerability that pulls you in and has you laughing and crying right along with all her crazy antics. She knows she’s a little off the wall. She knows it. And that’s what makes her so unforgettable.

After watching her first video, I found myself thinking about her content throughout my day, unable to shake the images and messages she presented. I found myself singing her theme song in the car and changing my mindset to be more “Emilia”. She promotes unequivocal acceptance of all humans, no matter what they look like, as long as they are kind people. And if she doesn’t like something about you, she damn well is going to be real with you about it.

Something else I highly respect from her is that she films in her home and doesn’t try to fabricate her surroundings. She doesn’t pretend to have a minimalist life or to be perfect. She films in her dirty kitchen, she films her knick-knacks, and she films her unshaved legs; something I have mad respect for. Because as women, hell, sometimes you just don’t want to shave your legs. That level of acceptance encourages her viewers to be unabashedly themselves. Hairy legs and all.

One of the videos that spoke to me the most was her video, How To Stop Giving A Shit. The level of truth in that video just floored me. She speaks to all the weirdos out there who ever felt sad or attacked by someone’s comments, even if they were meant good naturedly. She speaks to everyone who has ever put themselves out there and been judged. She speaks to those who are scared to take risks or be themselves because they think that it’s better to fit in than to express the magic inside of them. Just have a watch for yourself. You be the judge.

I went into the Emilia Fart experience thinking she was a clown, an annoying showoff, and a desperately sad narcissist in need of attention. And she is. But she is so much more than that. She is a deeply complex person, just like everyone else, and she has some very powerful messages of acceptance to share with the world.


Have you seen Emilia Fart? What are your thoughts on her outlandish, in your face, absurdity?

Take care, and don’t forget to take your medications!