Sunday Pep Talk | Trust Yourself

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Hello, friends! I have a secret to tell you. I don’t actually have any new years resolutions yet. I know. LAME. But there are things I want to do more of, and less of. I just haven’t gotten around to setting them as goals that I will actively work towards achieving. I mean, I made blog goals, and intentions, but those aren’t quite as real as resolutions, which I take to be things you actively do in your life to change things. Just to recap, in 2018 I:

Made my bed every morning
Got my mental health under control
Started therapy
Began a new job

This year, the things I’d like to do are:

Take care of more plants
Monetize my blog
Take my photography business to the next level
Move into my own apartment
Buy a new car
Publish that book I’m sitting on

These are big things. HUGE things. Cars are expensive. Apartments are also expensive. But if I can get my other goals completed, that shouldn’t really be an issue. 2019 will be a year about learning I can do the things, and then just doing the damn things. I always make excuses for why I can’t be a professional blogger and photographer. Interestingly enough, grad school did not make it onto that list. It’s something I’ve been considering ever since I graduated from undergrad, but for some reason I just can’t commit to that. Maybe it’s because I feel like the surreptitious college scam is finally coming to light, the idea that you need college to make money, when really all they do is enslave you to student loans. Graduate school is a ton of money! Sure, I could do it, but would I be any better off than I am now? I may have a better job, but I’d be paying more on my student loans. It’s a giant catch 22.

So instead, I’ve decided that 2019 will be focused on what I can do for myself with my own God-given talents. Not everyone can write, or take pictures, or both. I know I can do these things, but 2019 will be about accepting that I can do them for money. It’s easy! And graduate school will always be there, right? I just have to trust that I am on the right path and that I will lead myself exactly where I need to go.

And you should too! Trust that you know what’s best for yourself. If that means totally changing careers or ending a relationship with someone who loves you but who you’ve fallen out of love with, do the damn thing. This is your life. You have the power to make it anything you want it to be. Remember that your feelings are just as valid as anyone else’s. So listen to yourself. Trust yourself!

Sunday Pep Talk | New Year, New You


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Hello, friends. I hope you’ve all had a lovely holiday. 

They always say the New Years is a time of reinventing yourself, and I full heartedly agree with that! It has become the butt of every basic girl joke. Hashtag new year, new me! As they post an Instagram photo that has clearly been filtered and which will be followed by a bunch of snapchats of them puking in the toilet because they’ve embraced the new year a little too hard and couldn’t keep it all down. We’ve all been there, right?

No no, just kidding. All of the “New Years, New Me’s” are perfectly fine young ladies. And more power to them! Everyone deserves a chance to start over, and what better time to do that than at the beginning of a new year? Everyone has the power to change who they are; to be better, do better, reach out to those they hurt and start working on better relationships and friendships.

For me, in 2018 I swore I would get my mental health under control, and I followed through with that goal. I didn’t set too many for 2018. Just one. Get it together. Now, as 2019 rolls around, I am once again presented with an opportunity to make it a great year. What goals do I have in mind for 2019? Now that I have my mind straight, I would like to get my finances straight too. The wheels for this goal started rolling in 2018, but 2019 I will really try and focus on achieving the career goals I want. That means applying to graduate school. That means stepping into a leadership position and learning to manage groups of people. The old me would have told myself that these things were unachievable. The new me knows that if I work hard and stay focused on what’s important, I will be able to accomplish all of these goals.

What goals have you set for 2019? Whatever they are, I hope that you follow through with them and manifest the life that you want. You do have the power within you!

 

Sunday Pep Talk | Everyone Starts Somewhere

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To all the business start ups out there who may be feeling like their stuff can’t compete with the professionals, just remember that everyone started somewhere! I know it sounds so cliché, but if you believe in yourself and your dream, you can be just as good someday. Just make sure that you are taking steps to reach that Everest of yours, even if they are baby steps. Each day we learn something new about blogging, about entrepreneurship, about leadership, about working on our crafts. Think how far you’ve come already, and never forget why you started. You can do it! Keep going!

Sunday Pep Talk | The hope is what kills you

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Hope that it will get better. Hope that they will change. Hope that you might still have the future you’ve been building up in your head. The hope is really what kills you. The thoughts of what might have been. You build up all sorts of expectations, and inevitably end up disappointed.

The hope is what kills you. It eats away at you until you are so miserable that you don’t even want to keep yourself as company anymore. To be human is to have hope, and to have hope is to suffer when those expectations are not met. To remove hope would hurt less, yes, but it would also remove those valuable lessons that we all must learn in life. It would take away the pain of living, but without the pain, how could you ever appreciate the happiness? How would you know light if you never knew darkness?

So don’t wish things were different. Just continue to have hope. Continue to learn your lessons, and continue to grow. Continue on as all other humans do, and use that shattered hope you’ve lived through to inspire others to overcome their own hardships. Continue to have hope, because it’s the most beautiful thing in the world.

 

Sunday Pep Talk | Cast Out Darkness

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There is enough darkness in the world. A million lights could cast it out, but how many of us are afraid to stand up when we see an act of darkness being performed? How many of us turn the other way when we see injustice and abuse to our neighbors and fellow humans? You are one candle, but that doesn’t mean your light is any less important as the others. If we all show kindness, maybe the world wouldn’t have to remain so dark. Be kind. Show love. Do good. And we can make a difference in the world.

Sunday Pep Talk | NaNoWriMo 2018

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Hello lovelies!

Happy Sunday. I hope everything is going well for you all. We find ourselves at the starting weekend of NaNoWriMo, and for those of us participating, it can be difficult to stay motivated and inspired, as well as fit the time to write into our busy lives. But that is the point of the challenge! To create a writing habit if you didn’t already have one, and to devote a specified chunk of time to working on the thing you really want to create.

Don’t get discouraged! Even if you fall behind or the story doesn’t go the way you wanted it to, you should still be proud of yourself for undertaking this challenge. Perhaps you will learn a thing or two about yourself in the process too.

Stick with it! Don’t give up! You are doing great!


Take care, and don’t forget to take your medications!

Sunday Pep Talk | Take A Break

How are you all doing this morning?

Feeling burned out? Step away from the projects you are working on. They will be there tomorrow. For now, take a day to give your mind a rest. It’s ok to not be productive for a day. In fact, it probably helps you to be more productive by taking breaks. Don’t feel guilty about that. Your self worth is not based on your productivity. Take a nice hot shower, get into some comfy lounge clothes, make some comfort food, and put on one of your favorite movies. Or read one of your favorite books.

Sundays should be about recooporating your strength, mental stamina, and creativity. Take a break and enjoy the day your favorite way. Then you can kick next week’s butt!

Take care, and don’t forget to take your medications!